What is friendship?

I have come to a stage in my life where everything that happens is analyzed and thought after in a  profound way to know what is the background or philosophy residing behind it. Everything looks so normal has been done only after a sought out intention against it and means something for sure. This is not being ''over thinking potato'' but this is what life is- ''vividly appreciating and understanding the art of living''.


Most of my precious valuables in life are my friends and I deeply adore and love them. They're someone I can be the best with. That applies the same to almost all of the population of the earth. Everyone has a friend irrespective in whatever link or relation, but a friend is necessary.That person with whom you can spend your time with, with whom you can share your secrets, who's there for all the ups and downs, who listens and gives advice when in trouble, and so on. such attributes of a friend has been experienced by us all. But what is more necessary to understand is ''how to be true to the bond of friendship''.

People should ponder over the idea ''Am I really a true friend?'' ''or am I just acting to be one in the cloak of politeness''. It's strange that people don't take the relationship of friendship as seriously as any other relationships . Just as any other relationship, friendship has to be conveyed by both the sides, which is normally done. Then comes the stage to consider what level is this friendship in? Some people think that this 'particular' friend means a lot to me but that might not be the case pertaining to that friend. That friend might not feel the same level of friendship.

To this the only solution is communication and putting across or even indicating it through gestures the degree of friendship which is damn necessary. You might wonder why to complicate friendship when other relationships are already a wreck. That's because every relationship other than your family begins with friendship, that's the foundation. As the saying goes ''  when the foundation is strong, you're going to have a strong superstructure''. Keep the terms clear and talk it out. Hence communication is the solution to the long dragging problems of miscommunication.

Second component to this would be the ''Principle of reciprocity''. It's the most fundamental nature that the human being tends to expect the same in return. As a sign of validation and approval. But reciprocity may not work when intentions of both the people is on the opposite end of the spectrum- a paradox. You have to learn that, when the same treatment has not been reciprocated back, it is a clear sign of a masked and false affection [ fake nice people], leading to a conclusion of limiting the amount of affection bestowed by the other person. Don't waste your time on such individuals and consider to degrade them from your thought process.

3rd part to this is unnecessary continuance of an act out of politeness and commitment. Which should be broken when necessary. Sometimes friendship comes to such a standstill position, when a person thinks that his/her friend is taking such pain to help you or do your thing, but in reality they are doing it under the burden of some act of commitment or a practice started long before, mostly when its a regular thing. People should never do a thing that they're not feeling right to do. That once given a reason for its discontinuance should be acceptable and understandable to other friend, that's what a true friend would do. Rather than continuing like a load tied to the back. SIMPLY END IT.

I have seen so many good friendship been broken down which is hard to see and it is not lesser painful than any relationship breakup. Miscommunication, lack of trust, misunderstandings etc are the major issues of friendships falling apart. Though it is wise to keep the people in the same way the other is treating them. Completely cutting off threads are no solution for any problem. But keeping an arms length would be sane. Friendships are pure and have to be treated with equity as any other relationship. However, not everyone is looking for a true friend. There can be normal friend and acquaintances where you will have to forget these rules. But where you are getting even little of a hint of realness do consider by coming off from your ignorant nature.

If you have a good friend please treasure them. Rare thing to be found. To have a Jodi like ''Jay Veeru'', and others is a task in itself, its complicated like the rest. Finding a true friend is just like a treasure hunt, excruciating, learning and once found fruitful.

I hope you guys found this post useful and react down below about what you think about it. Have a great day. Bee Happy and Buzz Always